Thursday, November 15, 2012

Pardon My Back

I was so excited about today's outfit pics! I wish you guys could see me and my photographer, arguing at each other back and forth when I take my outfit pics, lol. I am so hardheaded and I know what I like so anyone trying to give me direction is in for a struggle...a control freak does not take direction well. However we usually get it together and end up with some really great pics for you guys. These pictures are the result of me taking direction, maybe I should do that more often, what do you guys think?




* Cardigan - Target * Skirt - Target * Belt - Forever 21 * Pumps - Steve Madden *



I am not sure if you guys know but there is an awesome group on Facebook called BLM, which stands for Bloggers Like Me. This week is BLM Girls Care...7 days, 7 kind stories, 7 acts, 7 photo stories.  We have been challenged to capture our kind spirit and share it.  I would love if you guys took the time to check out the BLM Girls on Facebook, I learn something new every day from these ladies.  I not going to promise to commit to the entire seven days but I did want to share some things that I have learned about kindness.

"When we feel love and kindness toward others, it not only makes others feel loved and cared for, but it helps us also to develop inner happiness and peace." - Dalai Lama


I sometimes think I am too nice if there is such a thing.  I have never been one to hold back my willingness to help others.  However in the past couple of years I have noticed that I continue to find myself feeling used and mistreated by those I do extend my kindness to.  I am the type of person that goes all in when you are on my team.  I don't see any reason not to, but I have found that not everyone is ready and willing to accept me or my blessings.  Some people may say "oh they aren't worthy" but everyone is worthy of feeling special and having kind things done for them by those that love them.  In the past when I felt like I was being taken advantage of or someone was being careless with my feelings I would just completely remove that person from my life.  Just like that, it seemed simple enough to me.   

I am a hard to the core when it comes to protecting my feelings, sometimes I take it too far.  However not anymore, that's not what life is about life is about having a great time, making friends, creating memories and progressing.  I now know that everyone you meet and encounter is in your life for a reason be it good or bad take it as a learning experience.  I have matured enough to know I won't like what everyone has to say or what they do, nor do I have to but I will respect them and their feelings and I expect them same in return.  So I felt it appropriate to name my post "Pardon My Back" because I have turned my back on that way of thinking.  I have learned that holding on to negativity does not benefit anyone.  I will not devote my time and energy towards that instead I will focus on those that take the time to make me feel special and love them even harder.  It took me a long time and a lot of hurt feelings to get where I am today, but what would life be without those hard lessons.  I feel like this has made me so much more relaxed and fun to be around. 

So regardless of who I come in contact with I will always be me and never let the actions of others affect my acts of kindness and prevent me from being who I really am.  



    

32 comments:

  1. This look is hot.  You always inspire me with the professional looks.

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  2. Great post!! You look fabulous honey!! Loooooove that cardigan!!

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  3. I would say yay for taking direction! Those shots are fabulous!!
    Sometimes you have to tell yourself that your kindness will never get overlooked. Even if a certain someone do take advantage of you, always remember that God knows your heart and see the good that u do and will bless you bountifuly. Keep being kind to those losers Jesus got your back *pun*

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  4. What a cool idea for this FB page!  I love your photos today!  You look smokin'!  The colors and prints are fabulous.  I am like you, though, I don't take direction well.  I'm so bad, in fact, that I refuse to let anyone else take my outfit photos--even (and especially) my husband!  LOL

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  5. Love this look!! Super cute!!

    xoxo,
    2Fashionaddictz

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  6. STUNNING photos. LOVE this outfit, too.

    xo,Terryhttp://terrys-two-cents.blogspot.com

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  7. Great outfit and your poses are good!

    I'm here~http://trinibkbabe.blogspot.com

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  8. Great post and I love your view of how BLM Girls give back.
     I struggle with similar feelings at times so this is right on time!
    BTW- Fun outfit and I can tell you had a good time taking the pictures!

    -Karen
    www.yourstylistkaren.com

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  9. Love the look, the pics and the message! Negativity has no benefit, and no place in our hearts or minds. #BLMGirlsCare

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  10. Great post, had to RT it. I can relate to this totally. 

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  11. I love a good backwards cardigan or sweater!!  You look amazing!!

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  12. I have to try this backwards sweater thing that you do! You look cute :)

    With Love,
    Ashley
    ASassyWoman.com 

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  13. Oh wow, you look sexy and beautiful!


    ♥♥♥

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  14. Love all the pics!!!! Fab look and your message really touched me ... We def have a lot in common other than blazers lol I'm always the giver and others just take and take and I still give then they stop coming around . So now I'm taking my feelings out of the situations and focusing on the people who luv and appreciate me :) so ill be praying for u as well dear !!!

    Keep being the kind loving woman u are
    Xoxo Melissa of faith family fashion

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  15. You better WERK honey! You look great girl, love this look! So classy!

    Roni

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  16. Work that pencil skirt!

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  17. Love reading about growth! Awesome post

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  18. Awesome, awesome, awesome!

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  19. I'm a woman, but I have to say this, damn girl, you're hot.

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  20. Sounds like a great group.  I'm going to check them out.  I completely agree.  I was telling Chief one day that I felt alone at times.  I would do things for people when they asked but no one would be around when I needed them. Even if all I needed was an ear and I decided one day to stop allowing myself to be everyone's dumping ground.    They'd come and tell me all their woes and problems and I'd listen intently offer GODLY and WORLDY advice. LOL!  Then when I ever need to talk to that person it would be "girl let me call you back." or you could tell they were only half listening.  You can't allow people to always just dump their problems on you and then go on about their business but choose to love hard on the ones that really love and appreciate you.  This is an awesome post.

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  21. and as usual...love your outfit.  i find that I really like Leopard with Red, Green & Black.  You can never go wrong with those 3 colors and leopard.

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  22. Hmmm... U BETTA WERK!!!!!! You straight killing it!!!!! *ADORE* Great outfit for such a GREAT post!!!! #BLMGirls ROCK!!!!! 

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  23. yes, yes, and did I say YES!! Who ain't stealing this?!?! Oh that's right me! LOL 

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  24. love the 'fit! i actually posted the 2nd pic on my fb fan page the other day. i never made the connection. i love the message, too. *do it*

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  25. I just love this look!!!  :D  I need someone to come and makeover my closet and then I need to lose about 20 pounds!  :/

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  26. You are a stallion honey! You look so great-as usual! And I totally feel you about people taking advantage of your kindness-that's why my circle remains small!

    http://thriftyandshameless.blogspot.com

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  27. Giiiiirl!! gimme some of them curves, please! HOT! HOT! HOT!

    ...and I am right with you on the over willingness to give of yourself to people who aren't worthy.  It is something I've come to terms with in my life... I am a giver...i can't change that...but I also have to go into it knowing reciprocation isn't guaranteed. It still hurts, but I guess I prepare my heart a little more now :)

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  28. Awwwwww girl!!! I feel like I know u and we have never met!!! That post above is just telling my story! Its like you are reading out my life's story! Keep being who you are and never stop hon.

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  29. Looooooove this post! I so needed this BB! Thank you!!

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  30. I'm rocking this look today. Thanks for the inspiration!

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